Posted 2 months ago
Hi there,
as a mum who has a daughter who has been in an ED unit, I owe her life to the fact that she went into a strict unit. She knew how to press all of my buttons, I was too easily cajoled or frightened at what might happen if I challenged her. It does not work for everyone and sometimes it takes more than 1 admission. I would say that hospitals offer general sustaining care but they are spread over a wide range of illness care programes/ paperwork/staffing demands and although care is often the best that they can give it is not always recovery focused.
My daughter herself says that her ED was all about gaining control in a world in which she felt out of control. She also upholds that she had to want to recover I think this is key. There will be a change when your daughter turns 18 and it is not always handled well be on the case and if y ou don't like what happens complain. When an individual is in recovery and has restored to a safer weight then it is important that she has the chance to take up her life again, try to meet up with friends/ study etc, this is the time when I do think it is important to be at home if you have excellent out patient support, (that was not the case at all for my daughter, lots of paperwork and shiny folders). So my advice maybe goes against what you have heard, my advice is also as a mother not representing the views of the charity, but for me strict and focused recovery to restore a safer weight only happened in a focused ED unit.